Today is R U OK? Day, a day dedicated to reminding everyone to check in on their loved ones. But what do you do if someone says they're not okay? Here's a practical guide:
1. Listen Actively: Give them your full attention. Avoid interrupting or offering solutions unless they ask. Sometimes, just being heard can make a world of difference.
2. Stay Calm: It can be distressing to hear someone you care about is struggling, but try to remain calm and composed. Your calmness can provide them with a sense of stability.
3. Ask Open-Ended Questions: Encourage them to share by asking questions like "Do you want to talk about what's been going on?" or "How have you been feeling about everything?"
4. Validate Their Feelings: Let them know that their feelings are valid. Say things like "It sounds like you've been going through a lot" or "I'm sorry you're feeling this way."
5. Offer Support: Ask them how you can help. It might be as simple as spending time together, helping with tasks, or finding professional resources.
6. Avoid Judgments: This isn't the time for opinions on what they "should" do. Focus on being there for them.
7. Encourage Professional Help: If they're open to it, suggest they speak to a professional who can provide guidance, whether it's a GP, therapist, or helpline.
8. Follow Up: Check in on them in the days and weeks after your conversation. A simple message or call can remind them that you care.
9. Educate Yourself: If you're unsure about how to support them, there are many resources that offer advice on mental health support.
10. Take Care of Yourself: Supporting someone else can be emotionally taxing. Ensure you're also looking after your own well-being.
Remember, R U OK? Day isn't just about asking the question; it's about being there for someone when they need it most. Let's create a community where everyone feels supported and understood.
